Don’t Miss Our Upcoming Seminar!
Subject: An invitation for Marriage Dancers in the Inland Empire/Greater Riverside & San Bernardino Area
What: The Marriage Dance Conference: How to Get Rid of Your Relationship Blockers
When: September 24, 2016; 8 am – 4 pm
Where: Crosswinds Church, 29263 Ironwood Avenue, Moreno Valley, California
Register: http://www.cwcmv.org/events.html
A couple went to see a counselor. The husband had hurt his wife terribly. The counselor had them sit knee-to-knee and had the wife tell her husband what his actions had done to her heart. She started sobbing as she spoke to him. It was the first time her husband actually understood what he’d done to her and why it was so bad.
Men and women think very differently. As a result, it is common for husbands and wives not to fully understand how their words and actions are affecting their spouse. Emotional intimacy begins with understanding your spouse’s heart. Some men who look at porn may think it’s not so bad because they still really love their wife. They don’t understand that she feels as though he has cheated on her. They wonder why she is not open the next time they make a sexual advance.
There are many things women don’t understand about their husbands either. She jokes with her girlfriend about a home-maintenance project her husband botched or complains publicly of his inability to earn a decent living. To him, it’s gross disrespect. He’s grumpy for the next few days and she has no idea why. A husband makes a sexual request of his wife and she brushes him aside because she’s not in the mood. To her, it’s no big deal; she’s got other things on her mind. But to him, it’s very personal. He feels rejected.
In the past, when telling Bob about something that has affected me, I didn’t necessarily mention the emotional aspect of what his actions did to my heart; I thought they were obvious. But they were not so obvious to Bob. The same principle was true when the tables were reversed. When Bob tells me about something that is of great importance to him, he needs to make sure I understand how important it is to him.
Men and women think very differently. Consider this when communication with your spouse breaks down. Wives, be sure you are communicating how certain words or actions affect you emotionally. Husbands, state plainly when something is of great importance to you. May God bring a deeper level of emotional intimacy in your marriage through a more complete understanding of your spouse’s heart.
