Keeping the relationship is of paramount importance in marriage. The goal of a disagreement is not to win the argument, it’s to win your spouse.
After you pinpoint the problem, calm the emotions, and listen to your spouse's side, start by making a proposal for a solution you can both live with.
In an argument, when you listen attentively to your response it goes a long way toward making you feel better and diffuse the argument.
Usually, when there is a dispute, it is because your spouse wants their way and you want yours, right? The emotions can take over for both parties.
In our first article of our five part series on resolving conflict in marriage, professional mediator Bob explains how to start by identifying the problem.