When a man is unclear, his wife might want to step into the void and take control. Practice the steps. The more you learn, the more confident you become.
When you look at the marriages around you, what do you admire? What makes them different? Do people look at yours and ask, "How do I get one like that?"
Do you see couples who have a marriage that makes you want to strive for better in your own marriage? Do others see your marriage and want to emulate it?