What Does Love Look Like?
Part 2 of a 2 Part Series
Last week we talked about Ephesians 5:33—particularly the phrase that says, “. . . the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.”
Today, we’re taking the phrase that admonishes a husband to love his wife. Here’s the whole verse: “Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.” (NASB) Because the word “love” is thrown around so much in our society, we began asking women exactly what love looked like to them in their marriage. In other words, what did their husband do or say that made them feel loved? Here are some of their answers.
What Does Love Mean?
“I feel loved because my husband is loyal to me. I have never heard him portray me as a ‘ditz’ or a nag to his friends—or to anyone.”
“He keeps his eyes on me—not on other women.”
“He compliments me to others.”
“He cares for me. When he sees that I’m overwhelmed, he starts doing some of the tasks I normally do—without even being asked. That makes me feel special.”
“Our children are young. He gave me a special gift of having time away with my friends.
“I feel loved when I know he is sacrificing for me or us or for the greater good. Sometimes he has endured something that was really hard for him.”
“I feel loved when he notices that I’ve dressed up and done my hair and make-up and he tells me I look pretty.”
“I feel loved when he does a special gesture for me.” (This varied by person. See the next entry.”
“I feel loved when he pays attention to my wants and desires and likes.”
We would add this: Men, research your wife. Study her. Know and speak her love language. What puts a smile on your wife’s face? Do it! Even knowing you are trying to understand and please her will be a major win for you!
Don’t miss part 1 of this series: What Does Respect Look Like?
This article was originally published on our blog on October 3, 2018.