The Marriage Dance Book

Emotional intimacy isn't about fixing your spouse. Avoid trying to fix problems or get defensive and your marriage will be a safe place for your spouse to share.

Do you and your spouse share emotional intimacy in your marriage and talk about “heart matters”? When you feel totally safe, you open up. That's the goal!

Emotions are like a window into the soul showing us a problem in our heart that needs attention. When you shut off emotions, you can't see into your soul.

What is your mindset toward your marriage? If it were up to you, are you willing to put in the time and effort to make your marriage really dance?

What is it that irks you in your marriage? Will it matter in 10 years? Here’s the question that will give you perspective when handling the daily irritations in your marriage.

Forgiveness can be like peeling an onion. You forgive someone for an offense, but time passes and then there’s another layer that needs to be forgiven too.

Is your marriage like a cruise ship? Is it a big feeding frenzy with you rushing from one activity to the next? Or are you slowing down—relaxing—and enjoying your mate?

Are you stepping on your spouse's toes (or getting yours stepped on) when it comes to time concerns? Read on to find a better way to handle the situation.

Has dialogue with your spouse stopped and you don’t know why? Learn to spot your wounds and how they are affecting communication in your marriage.